OVERLY COMFORTABLE

I don’t have the best social skills out there but I have enough to be civil and interactive with the world out there. I am finding however that certain people and all these people I have had such experiences with are black, are overly comfortable being too comfortable with strangers. I don’t like being touched, generally speaking. Even the people who are close to me sometimes when they touch me unexpectedly I can react not in a positive way but a negative- why are you in my space way. It's something I find I do. You can imagine my disgust and perplexity when a stranger finds nothing wrong with extending their filthy hands towards my body. I just do not get what kind of social etiquette it is to touch people one has just met. The fact that I have a tattoo that is sometimes visible just aggravates the chances of me being so violated. People just tend to think it's okay to touch my tattoo and ask me what it means. Total strangers I mean. I get you see it, I also see your hair, eyes, horrible outfit but no one sees me walking around touching their fabrics and telling them they feel like quality or fonkong do they!? People just need to chill, I get we are all humans and humanity towards each other is essential but please let's keep to our space. Part of social skills is knowing when to stay in your lane. It's much like liking to know other people's business when really the details of their lives will do very little to the quality of your own life. #PawsOff. A good example is also men who go about grabbing people's hands, especially women in an attempt to shela them. These men really need to learn how to get a woman's attention because their behaviour of hand grabbing is rude and authoritative on women's sovereignty.

Also people who think just because I am short I can be used a a support structure must fall too. They always act very surprised when you refuse to indulge them like you were made short for the sole purpose of their being able to lean on you. These people must fall I swear- I have no respect or patience for such characters in fact, I abhor them. And then there are those people who will greet you like a decent person upon first meet; but they never stop there, they go on to want to know where you stay, where you are going, your number, everything really that they can use to find you. My thing here is there are just places where the people who congregate there are just too random for anything. For all you know you could be giving your details to a stalker, killer or rapist. The world is full of sick bastards out there so people please don’t give me a stank eye because I refused to tell you where I was going, it's not in my best interests to do so. Talk about the weather or the news then I can engage you fully but anything personal, wooo shem! I will not divulge. I speak from experience as I almost had a fatal encounter on the account of trusting a stranger who seemed harmless. But then again I must say observe where you are ( location) and pay very strict attention to what they say about themselves. Any gut feeling that tells you to not trust a stranger who looks harmless, listen very attentively and find a quick escape. As a people I feel we just need to learn boundaries. 

DATING

I am back again with a trend in the dating world that I felt the need to address. So its all nice to be admired by a person to the point where they want you to be their girl/boy. My bone of contention is that people think just because I know their name then that’s enough info for me to consider them a compatible partner and thus commit to being their girlfriend. No one I have noticed, takes the time to date and get to know the other person these days; what they like to do, who they hang out with, where they like to go, where they come from, what is important in their life, what their aspirations are. After all compatibility in these very crucial factors is what will take the relationship beyond the initial lust. That is assuming of course that they are interested in a serious, long term relationship. I do however respect a person who explains upfront what exactly the interest/ love they are expressing for you means to them; does it mean sex or does it mean a relationship. I hate guys who pretend to be for the latter when all they want is the former because it becomes apparent the more you speak to them and I consider it an insult that a guy would think he could trick me into having sex with him by telling me he loves me. I feel like if i was to engage sexually it would be because i am interested and not because he declared because honestly i am not clueless as to what true love is. And Batswana men seem to think saying "i love you/ ke a go rata" then you should be so impressed you should declare yourself their girlfriend. But I can't stand a lazy man, if he is lazy to ask me out, get to know me, get to evaluate if he likes the person that I am and allow me the courtesy to also discover who he is and potentially develop an interest in him too if it wasn't there already then whats the point!? Next thing you know I will be picking after him like he is a 5 year old, irritated with the way he sneezes or chews so, no thanks but I shall stay single. As much as men may say its easy to get sex, to get a serious woman who has goals and aspirations and could elevate you and add value to your life and you do the same for her, you must invest in cultivating interest in the person. There are no quick solutions to lasting and quality things, whatever they may be.