DATING

I am back again with a trend in the dating world that I felt the need to address. So its all nice to be admired by a person to the point where they want you to be their girl/boy. My bone of contention is that people think just because I know their name then that’s enough info for me to consider them a compatible partner and thus commit to being their girlfriend. No one I have noticed, takes the time to date and get to know the other person these days; what they like to do, who they hang out with, where they like to go, where they come from, what is important in their life, what their aspirations are. After all compatibility in these very crucial factors is what will take the relationship beyond the initial lust. That is assuming of course that they are interested in a serious, long term relationship. I do however respect a person who explains upfront what exactly the interest/ love they are expressing for you means to them; does it mean sex or does it mean a relationship. I hate guys who pretend to be for the latter when all they want is the former because it becomes apparent the more you speak to them and I consider it an insult that a guy would think he could trick me into having sex with him by telling me he loves me. I feel like if i was to engage sexually it would be because i am interested and not because he declared because honestly i am not clueless as to what true love is. And Batswana men seem to think saying "i love you/ ke a go rata" then you should be so impressed you should declare yourself their girlfriend. But I can't stand a lazy man, if he is lazy to ask me out, get to know me, get to evaluate if he likes the person that I am and allow me the courtesy to also discover who he is and potentially develop an interest in him too if it wasn't there already then whats the point!? Next thing you know I will be picking after him like he is a 5 year old, irritated with the way he sneezes or chews so, no thanks but I shall stay single. As much as men may say its easy to get sex, to get a serious woman who has goals and aspirations and could elevate you and add value to your life and you do the same for her, you must invest in cultivating interest in the person. There are no quick solutions to lasting and quality things, whatever they may be.