OBSERVATIONS

Let me start by declaring that I like to look at how people close to me live and take some useful lessons for myself from them and identify what I would not want in my life and work consciously to avoid it. Now I have observed that women like to commit to be the maid they never intended to be, particularly, I have noticed this of married women. They get their adorable husbands used to being taken care of hand and foot and then get exasperated with other people once this becomes too exhausting for them to do. I believe that as women if we do not want to do the whole waiting on a man thing we should let them know from the onset that we expect them to pull up their socks and get some work done in the house. Don't get frustrated because you never got your expectations out there for him to know because our patriarchal society teaches men largely that they shall be served by women. No one can stand up for us if we don't ourselves and le setswana sare ngwana o sa leleng o swela tharing. I feel like I have had to do a lot of house work and man tending by virtue of staying with a particular married woman who clearly is tired herself of taking care of every whim her husband has. This has made me resolute in my resolve not to allow myself to fall into such a predicament. I think a lot of us women allow ourselves to become the maid/ house worker we never aspired to and nothing is as frustrating as doing something you do not want to do nor feel like you should have to do nor had you ever aspired to do.