BREAK-UP/ OR NOT

Well most of my guy friends that I have talked to about this,  say it is a break up; if someone up's and disappears on you while you still consider yourself to be in a relationship with them without properly calling things quit apparently you should immediately consider yourself dumped. I am of the view no doubt that this is a coward move that is very inconsiderate. I think if we are just fuck mates/ friends with benefits yes you can disappear on me because the friend in this relationship is a loose interpretation of what it means to be friends anyway. However do commit to being an item and forego the option to just be sex mates (which is always an option of course based on circumstance) and then not have the decency once you feel you have had enough of me to at least say 'deuces'. I think that’s why sometimes guys like to claim we are crazy (as women) because they are the uppermost perpetrators of such behaviour and they want to be able to pull such stunts and have us be fine with it. I say otherwise. If you just up and leave without a trace- your docket definitely shall remain open on my side. And if I bump into you two years later with your wife; assuming you would have gotten married I will be all drama on you- pull out my best crying scene and just make a nuisance out of myself. In the process I'l probably embarrass myself but I will embarrass you too and have your girlfriend/ wife wondering just what kind of a man you are. I mean really what is so difficult about writing at the very least a text saying " i can't do this anymore". This way you know you have told me off and you no longer have any obligation to me because you severed any such properly. I am not the kind of girl who will follow a guy who has made it clear he doesn’t want me but one who makes no such effort to tell me off, that’s a complete different story. Take note that me pulling a scene on you when we do eventually bump into each other will not be because I would still want you, it would be my way of teaching you a bit of decency. Trust if you disappear on me- depending on how strongly I felt about you, I will cry it out, drink it out or just eye roll you away but I can be vindictive enough to think you deserve a one up for your behaviour. But that’s just me and besides I have to admit I am having fun thinking up all this drama I could cause.

But honestly people if we make the effort to get into a relationship, for our soon to be ex's sanity let's make a clean break; just like with human bones this makes for a faster healing. Do not want to feel indispensable by not properly breaking things off and leaving the other person to wonder if they are still with you meanwhile telling people how crazy and devastated they are to have lost you. It's not cool. And grow up.